Take care of you!

When you have assumed the vital role of taking care of someone else, you have to take care of yourself first. You have to do what you can to avoid overload or burnout. Some of the expert suggestions that follow may help. 

Feel your feelings
Providing care for a loved one can be an emotional experience, positive and not so positive. Many people think that caregivers are supposed to be selfless and not have any negative emotions about caregiving. That's an impossible standard to meet. Such emotions are perfectly normal and shouldn't make you feel guilty. They can be a sign that you need a break or have another need that's not being met.

Make "you" matter
It may sound very "Me" generation, but it's important to try to schedule time for yourself. This could include time for exercising, meeting a friend, enjoying a hobby, or taking a much-needed nap. Even selfless people need a little fun time. Search the Internet for respite co-ops where caregivers "trade" respite time with each other. You could contact a licensed practical nurse for additional help, or reach out to another home care worker such as an agency aide.

Stay strong
Regular exercise can help you meet caretaking's physical demands. Try to make strengthening and stretching exercises part of your routine. It's critical to get enough sleep, which caretakers often neglect. Good nutrition will also help maintain strength and energy levels. Eat lean protein and healthy carbs like whole grains and vegetables.

Find support
Many caregivers turn to support groups for assurance and encouragement

Pennsylvania Department of Aging
aging.pa.gov or 
717-783-1550

National Alliance for Caregiving
caregiving.org

Alzheimer's Association
alz.org/care